blah blah blah blah blah do what I say and not what I do blah blah blah blah.

Life is hard sometimes, and our kids need to hide / escape / deal. This is normal. Sometimes as adults we need the same thing.  Pay attention to how your kids play games, what they are playing and what else they are doing. If you want me to write some formula for you I will…but you know your kids a hell of a lot better than I do.